Psychic Readings 101: What to Do Before You Sit Down with a Reader

diana: Welcome to Beyond the Spiritual Nexus, Your Cosmic Connection. I'm your host, Diana Rose. And as always, I'm here with my co-host, Xandra. I'm Xandra, and welcome to Cosmic Monday, where we like to talk about all things mystical, magical, and supernatural. Today's topic is one that comes up often when people book appointments, right, Diana? yes, yes, it does. you know, people always start with a subtle feeling where They have a spark of curiosity, or maybe they get this little nudge that's telling them they need to find out what's going on, that there's more happening than meets the eye, or maybe that there's a big change brewing in their lives. It pushes them to seek some guidance from someone like myself or Xandra, who does intuitive spiritual readings. Now the thing is a lot of us feel that spark, that gut feeling, but we We aren't always sure how to listen to it, how to trust it, or where to go when we want that little extra guidance. Exactly. And you know, taking that first step to look for answers, you know, booking a reading or trying to find a reader even, how about just stepping into that spiritual space? It can feel very intimidating to some people, especially if you've never had it done before. And you don't know what to expect. People often wonder, what are they going to tell me? Is it going to be scary? What if my mind goes completely blank? I've heard those ones before. So today we are dedicating this entire episode to that worry, those questions. So let's keep it simple, right? Yeah, let's. Today we're gonna clear up the most common myths and we'll give you an honest practical guide to what intuitive or psychic readings are actually like and how to prepare and how to get the most out of that experience. So when you get to the heart of intuitive readings, they are just a way to gain insight and perspective. You know, what brings you into a reading is always going to be personal to you. Maybe you're you have a Difficult decision to make, or maybe you're feeling like you're stuck. Maybe you're in a relationship that doesn't go anywhere. Perhaps you're just curious of changes. A reading can offer you a fresh point of view, it can give you direction and input, and it helps to give you clarity. In many areas of your life. Yet. Yet, so many people who want to try a reading end up holding back in some capacity. Which is that's that's normal. That's normal. what I've learned over the years is it usually comes down to a fear of the unknown. So hopefully we can help you defeat that dragon and make the process feel familiar and friendly. So we'll walk you through it step by step so you can relax. and focus on what matters to you. Absolutely. So first of all, keep in mind that every reader has their own style. their own way of doing things. It's you know, their personality is always gonna come out in their readings. It's just like any other professional that you see. Your hairdresser, your therapist, your yoga master, everyone has their own style. And so does your spiritual reader. What a feminine list. Your hairdresser, your yoga master. Well I am a girl, Xandra. You are, you are, but back on track. for example, over at Psychic Om we love being open and kind and straight to the point, but but we are respectful. We're here to help you find clarity. Yes. Our aim when we set up this shop. We put our shop together. We designed it to make our clients feel comfortable so that when you walk in, you feel like you're walking into a cozy living room. Your reader will greet you, they'll help you get settled. And you know, they'll take a moment to to talk to you and help you relax and help you feel relaxed and at home. Your reader will chat with you about what you're hoping to focus on that during your reading they will explain how readings work and depending on what you want or are hoping to get from your session, they may try to like gently, gently recommend an approach that fits you best. Yes. after that they may start by grounding the session. You know, that looks different for every reader. Remember, like I said, every reader has their own persona. They might light a candle, they might burn a little incense, call upon their angels or spirit guides. They might take a few moments of silence to say a prayer. and to set the intention for the time that they're spending with you. So that will depend on your reader and what works for them to help them prepare to begin your reading. Right. You have to remember that just like you, a reader is a person. So they're all going to work a little differently, just like everyone else. So after that, all you really have to do is sit back, take a deep breath and engage with the experience. That's probably the most important part is that you engage with the experience. Absolutely. So if you're planning a session soon, there are a few ways that you can prepare yourself and to have a good or a great experience. We want you to have a great experience. So they're actually really simple. the steps that you should take that we recommend. We always recommend to take a few minutes before your appointment, write down your questions. You can put it in your phone, in your notepad, you can write it on a little piece of paper, you know, whatever feels comfortable for you, whatever works for you. That's what we recommend. Yeah, when you say it out loud, I know it feels really obvious, but if it didn't occur to you before now, don't worry, that's normal. Regardless, writing your questions down. Makes such a big difference. It keeps you centered and it you get a little nervous during your session, which again that's very normal. You don't have to worry about forgetting what you wanted to ask. Exactly. So another thing that you may want to do is you may want to bring a small personal item with you. Kind of like you know, your watch, your ring, your bracelet, the keys to your favorite car, something that's personal. to you that you know you feel attached to but a small item something that your reader can hold in their hand that's a good idea I can't tell you how often people agree to me holding on to a personal item of theirs only for them to realize they don't have anything that works within that you know so people did that to be clear holding on to an item like that can actually help the reader tune into your personal energy a little bit more in easily, but it's it's not absolutely necessary and it's reader and reading dependent. Right. And I usually recommend that if you're gonna have like a psychometry reading done. And a psychometry reading is basically that's what it is. The reader holds an article that belongs to you. You know, and maybe not all readers perform psychometry readings. Maybe that's not their specialty. Or just something they don't want to do. True. This is true. So, you know, it should be an item that is personal to you. You know, nothing that has belonged to another person in its lifetime. And you should give yourself five minutes to you know, take a few deep breaths before you walk through the door so you can be focused and be relaxed when you come in. Yeah. a few deep breaths in your car or in the waiting room to let go of the rest of your day. I would I would recommend that. It helps you drop down into like a calm or open headspace before your reading starts. So I just want to say we know that you're probably a little overwhelmed. And that's that's okay. We're prepared for that. So it's more important that you just take care of yourself. Yes, we deal with that every day. So and if you aren't able to visit us in person at Psychic Om or to have a FaceTime or video session with us, we will always encourage you to look for local readers. readers who are transparent about their pricing, that treat your free will with total respect, that leave you feeling empowered and peaceful. Having a reading done, you know, is very personal and it's not about taking away your free will. A reputable reader will always empower you to make your decisions with a clear and confident mind. And to I just want to say it's okay if you find yourself in the chair again a couple months later admitting you didn't take their advice to Yeah. Diana and I have been doing this for years and I think counting how many times that has happened would be near impossible. You're right. Yeah, it's happened a lot. We never judge your choices or free will. That's not what we're here for. Now, Xandra. I see you have out your notebook. So you must be ready to share some questions that some of our listeners may have sent in. I am. I went digging into our inbox. Foraging, if you will. And I found some questions about getting readings. And I chose four. Are you ready? I'm always ready, Xandra. And there's no time like the present. Okay, so first up, Sarah from Texas asks, can a reader tell me what choices I should make or tell me my exact future? That's a great question, Sarah. Well A healthy reading should never dictate your life or take away your choices. Mm. A reader should never do that. You should think of your reader like a like a weather forecast. They can point out the current trends and possibilities, but you are always the driver. You are always the one who is making the decisions. The goal is to give you clarity, to help you feel confident in your decisions and your choices, to empower you. It's impossible to overstress that your free will is never in question with a good reader. Absolutely. So next we have Marcus from Ohio who writes, If I get nervous and my mind completely blanks out, what happens? Is that okay? That happens all the time. And it's completely okay. That's why we recommend bringing a a list of questions. it's very handy. It's handy, yeah. But even if you forget everything, it's okay. The the right reader will easily guide you. with conversation, they'll help you feel at ease and they'll help you remember what you want to know. You know, there's zero pressure on you to perform. Yeah. You're not there to be theatrical or anything. You're there to get some answers and guidance. Yes. Now moving on. Elena from California asks, How often is too often to get a reading? Okay, well that's a that's also a wonderful question. I get asked that question a a lot actually. You know It's not a reading should not be a daily navigation system. It it shouldn't be something that you want to do or feel that you need to do on a daily basis. because if you feel compelled to book a reading every week and ask the same question repeatedly, that's usually a sign to stop and take a deep breath. Or maybe see a therapist. Because that means that you're having anxiety. I been there I yes, I think we've all been there. Xandra. so give yourself time. Give your life time to unfold. Everybody progresses at a different pace. Some people progress sooner than others. Some people move at a slower pace. So we always recommend just take a deep breath, give things a little time to move. I like to tell people to wait a couple months because then they kind of relax and they let it they come at their own pace, you know? Energy can also be really fast moving in a cosmic sense, but like for us, like human beings, things can progress a little slower in that regard. Yes. For some people. Now finally, David from Illinois asks, How do I know if a reader is a good fit for me before booking? Well David, first and foremost, it's all about trust and comfort. Yeah. You know, take a look at their website. Look at their social media. See how their tone feels. Is it welcoming? Does it feel grounded? Look to see for clear pricing. Genuine client reviews. And I do say genuine client reviews. That's important. Most importantly, you want to trust your gut. You want to go with your gut instincts because if their overall vibe feels calm and respectful to you, well, more than likely you would be in good hands. You know, I I find people feel more comfortable with me when they see I'm just treating them like a person. And over the years a lot of clients have actually told me that they were nervous but relaxed when they saw that I was relaxed. Yes, that's a that's a key factor. You know, your your reader sets the pace for you. And someone who knows what they're doing is going to be relaxed. And readers are all about working with people, helping people, guiding people. We don't work against you. No, we don't work against you. A good reader will always make sure you feel comfortable. You know, people often forget that conversation is a kind of energy exchange. You know, that's a major part of spiritual reading. It is. Yeah. Now let's step into our full weekly forecast of cosmic currents, covering the cosmic shift from Monday, August 17th all the way through Sunday, August 23rd. Bridges feel like a big thing this week, Diana. Yeah, stay tuned. So we are officially crossing through the quiet space between eclipses, right after the Leo solar eclipse earlier this month on the twelfth. And now we are building up towards another lunar eclipse, the Pisces lunar eclipse. It's just on the horizon now on the twenty eighth. So this is an incredible week for grounding your momentum and making real practical progress. You know it really is. you can actually see that reflected on Monday, August 17th, when we kick things off with the sun making its final push through Leo, while the waxing crescent moon moves through Libra. Now remember, we have an alignment between Venus and Jupiter this week also, putting us all in a really, really lovely contemplative mood. Monday is all about restoring inner balance and opening your heart to supportive connections. But as we move into Tuesday, August 18th, the energy shifts to deeper, more personal healing. The Aquarius North Node. Aligns with Chiron and Taurus, which is the universe's way of reminding us to let go of pressure to do everything alone. It's a wonderful day to heal old doubts around self-worth and lean on the people who love and support you. Remember, balance and supportive connections. And then on Thursday, August 20th. The first quarter moon rises in Scorpio. Now, first quarter moons always ask us to take a step forward. And you know, in mystery loving Scorpio, it's all about cutting through fear and looking at the honest truth of where you stand, especially where your personal goals and resources are. It gives us that extra spark of determination. So we don't give up on our dreams or our loved ones. So pay attention to your gut regarding anyone in your support system. Scorpio loves to shine on the dark. And then comes the big shift at the end of the week. On Saturday, June, August 22nd. I don't know why I said June. You are months behind, girl. I am. I don't know why I said June. I want to go back to beginning of summer, I guess. So August 22nd, the sun officially moves out of Fiery Leo and steps into the thoughtful, grounded Virgo, kicking off Virgo season. You know, Miss Diana is a Virgo. I am. So I know all about Virgo season. It's like a warm, comforting, deep breath. You know, where that Leo energy brought the big ideas and high inspiration. Virgo comes in to help us tend to the details, organize our daily lives, put practical routines in place. It's the perfect time to clear out physical clutter and refine your long-term plans. It's like the editing phase of a big play. Yep. So as you navigate this week, remember that you don't have to rush. Use this middle space between eclipses to ground yourself, trust your support system, and let Virgo's practical wisdom guide your next best steps. For a simple evening ritual on Monday, you can sit somewhere cozy. Near a window around twilight with your candle, a crystal, preferably clear quartz or selenite, and a small slip of paper. Write down one worry or doubt that you have about the future. Something that you're ready to let go of. Place your crystal right over the paper that you've just written your doubt on. Take three slow deep breaths. Imagine a cooling, peaceful light clearing your mind, and say to yourself, I let go of all unnecessary worry. I trust my inner peace and my path forward. Leave that crystal on top of the paper overnight to hold that calm boundary. then the next morning safely tear up or burn the paper, visualizing that old worry dissolving away for good. Well, it's time for Tea and Tarot, where we like to sit down with something warm and peek into the energies of the coming week with our little tarot deck. Yes, Xandra. It's your little tarot deck. It's not little, I struggle to shuffle it. well today we have a blend of holy basil, or you may also know it as Tulsi. And le lemon verbena Tulsi is amazing, Xandra, for grounding your nervous system. And the lemon verbena adds a bright and cheerful citrus flavor. Xandra, I just love this blend. I've never been unhappy while eating an orange or drinking lemonade. Have you? Well, you know what? Me too, that's true. This this little concoction really does feel like the last of summer. It's got that it's really bright, it's relaxing. Yeah, it's relaxing, it's refreshing. So since you brewed, I will hold the deck today and shuffle. And as I shuffle, I am taking a moment to set it an intention Of asking for more peace, for clarity, and whatever message our listeners need for this week. Oops, okay. We have drum roll please the high priestess. Xandra, she's one of my favorites. Mine too. Especially in the Rider Waite deck. The High Priestess is the second major Arcana card. She is the ultimate symbol of inner wisdom, intuition, and stepping into the unseen without fear. Feels very relevant, doesn't it, Xandra? It does. I agree. I love her imagery so much, actually. So let's look at her. If you look at the high priestess card. She sits right between two pillars, one dark and one light, with a veil of pomegranates behind her, representing the deeper layers of the subconscious mind. She also wears a triple phase moon moon crown, my god, and holds a sacred scroll in her lap. But peep, how she isn't shouting or forcing her knowledge on anyone. No, absolutely not. That was perfect, Xandra. That is the thing about the High Priestess. She isn't pushy or frantic. She reminds us that true intuitive wisdom isn't loud or anxious. It's quiet, calm, and already sitting right within you. Or maybe in front of you. You think I could be I I do have the High Priestess as one of my identifier cards, actually, so good call. So if we tie this back into today's episode, a good reading or a good reader doesn't dictate your future or tell you what to do. They simply act like a mirror for the high priestess energy, helping you part that veil just a bit so you can see your options clearly and And trust your gut instinct. So, whether you're sitting across from a professional reader, or you're just taking a few minutes to yourself on a busy day meditating, the High Priestess asks you to tune out the outside noise and honor the quiet truth speaking within you. Well, everyone, that's all the time we have for today. We just want to remind you, your story isn't just about navigating the chaos of daily decisions or worrying about what lies around the bend. It's also about honoring that quiet, wise frequency resting right within your heart. Guiding every choice you make today and beyond. So, stop forcing yourself to feel out of control or rejecting your free will. You hold the steering wheel. I want to thank you all for sitting with us at the table tonight and stepping into the Nexus with us today. If this episode on intuitive readings helps you feel more prepared to book an appointment with your trusted reader, Make sure to leave us a review, share it on your stories, and tag us, or pass it along to a friend who might need a little practical guidance and reassurance right now. But before you go, we just want to say our favorite part of this show is building a community, a literal nexus, if you will, and that means bringing your voices onto the show. So if you've ever had a Mind-blowing experience during a reading, a moment where your gut instinct saved the day, or if you have questions regarding tarot or astrology or energy work, we want to hear from you. So send us your stories, your questions, or short voice notes over to hello at spiritual nexus podcast.com. You can also reach Xandra or myself on Instagram at thespiritualnexus or check us out at spiritual nexus podcast.com. As always, we want to thank you for joining us, and we'll catch you next week on Cosmic Monday. Until next time, trust your quiet inner voice, protect your peace, stay grounded, and take good care of each other. Peace out, everybody.